Celebrating the “Good Times” with our friends is absolutely as important as being there for them when they are down. I have done this all my life. One of the greatest shocks I ever experienced in the friend-sphere was when the woman I had considered my best friend of many years was jealous and negative when something really wonderful happened to me. I do not understand this attitude. I do not get it right to the very core of my being! Finally, I realized she needed me to be “one-down” to her for some reason. How sad for both of us. It would have been so much fun to celebrate together!! ~ Lois
This is from the “Daily OM” newsletter:
|Being Happy For Friends|
It is important to be there for our friends during the good times, not just the difficult times.
When we are close friends with someone, we intuitively know when they need a hug, a helping hand, or a sympathetic ear. Likewise, when we are going through bleak periods in our lives, we count on friends to support us through loss, illness, and other setbacks, both big and small. And while part of being a good friend means being there when the other person needs us, it is just as important to be there for our friends so we can share in their joyous celebrations and triumphs.
After all, who else would our friends want to celebrate their promotions, graduations, marriages, and good news with than their loved ones and good friends. Yet depending on what is happening in our lives, it can sometimes be difficult to be there for our friends during the good times. We can become so busy with our own lives that we forget to make time. Or we may be so focused on our own problems that we may not feel like celebrating with our friends. We may even take their joyful moments for granted, assuming that as long as we’re there for our friends during the bad times that we are doing our jobs. Yet part of being a true friend means also being there during the good times. Success and happiness can feel empty without someone to share them with, and who better to join in our victory dances than our good friends.
Taking time from our busy lives to honor our friends’ happy moments is a wonderful way to show them that they matter. And in many ways, by wanting you around during their happy occasions, your friends are also honoring you. After all, it is the people we cherish that we want to sing at our birthdays, visit our newborn babies, and pop open that bottle of champagne when we reach a milestone moment. The next time a friend wants you to be there to celebrate with them, remember to feel honored that they thought of asking you. Together, you can celebrate their happiness and your rich friendship.