Lois’ Notes: One of the things I learned in therapy right after my divorce was how to tell the difference between fear and excitement. They feel very much the same in your body, except if you breathe deeply, often you can feel the fear turn into excitement. I tried it. It works. Sometimes we walk away from something that excites us mistakenly believing it is scary – because no one ever taught us how to tell the difference. And it is a really important thing to know.
The following comes from The Daily OM Newsletter.
|Are You Excited or Scared?|
There is nothing wrong with being afraid as long as we do not let it stop us from doing the things that excite us. Most of us assume that brave people are fearless, but the truth is that they are simply more comfortable with fear because they face it on a regular basis. The more we do this, the more we feel excitement in the face of challenges rather than anxiety. The more we cultivate our ability to move forward instead of backing off, the more we trust ourselves to be able to handle the new opportunity, whether it’s a new job, an exciting move, or a relationship. When we feel our fear, we can remind ourselves that maybe we are actually just excited. We can assure ourselves that this opportunity has come our way because we are meant to take it.
Framing things just a little differently can dramatically shift our mental state from one of resistance to one of openness. We can practice this new way of seeing things by saying aloud: I am really excited about this job interview. I am really looking forward to going on a date with this amazing person. I am excited to have the opportunity to do something I have never done before. As we do this, we will feel our energy shift from fear, which paralyzes, to excitement, which empowers us to direct all that energy in the service of moving forward, growing, and learning.